In factory farms, mother pigs are intensively confined and forcibly impregnated. A mother pig (sow) spends her entire adult life confined to a metal crate so small that she can’t even turn around or lie down comfortably. Forced to live lying in…
The laughter at transgender people’s expense didn’t end there, either. One month after Ace Ventura premiered I saw Naked Gun 33 1/3, the hit comedy in which Anna Nicole Smith’s character does a sexy silhouette striptease that ends up revealing a penis. Once again, her former suitors are appalled. Then there’s the famous Tone Loc frat anthem “Funky Cold Medina,” the second verse of which finds Loc talking about a girl he meets named Sheena. After the two flirt, Loc takes Sheena home, where it’s revealed that she’s transgender. The rapper, who you might remember also co-starred in Ace Ventura, throws Sheena out of his house, saying, “I don’t fool around with no Oscar Mayer wiener.” Even in supposedly queer-friendly movies like 1991’s Soapdish you’ll find characters disgusted by transgender people, like when Robert Downey Jr. gags after having a romantic interlude with a trans woman.
Repugnance is a common theme in the trans-people-as-jokes canon. But more prevalent is the element of deceit. Time and again in both comedic and dramatic films, transgender people are cast as deviant tricksters out to fool innocent victims into sleeping with them. This narrative plays upon two of America’s deepest fears: sexual vulnerability and humiliation. Not only is your sex partner “lying” about their gender, victims who “fall for it” are then forced to grapple with the embarrassment of being had, of being seen as gay. Men “tricked” into sleeping with another man are embarrassed by the threat to their masculinity. So much culture has taught us that transgender people aren’t just sexual aliens, they’re also predatory liars.
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Suppose there is a homosexual female. She does not like dicks. Period. End of story. Dicks are a major turn-off, as with most people who are not attracted to men.
Now, let’s say she meets a girl she likes. Doesn’t really seem to have breasts,…
She’s not calling off the relationship because the girl is trans.
She’s calling off the relationship because:
1. The girl has a dick.
2. The girl did not tell her about the dick.
Reason 1 stands regardless of trans or not - you can be romantically attracted to someone, but not sexually.
I will respect, however, that you allowed Reason 2 to stand on its own.
In the end, though, my point still stands - it is not transphobic simply to refuse sex because of a sudden reveal of unexpected genitals.
No, it is not transphobic to simply refuse sex because of a sudden reveal of unexpected genitals. It is transphobic to call off an entire relationship with someone because they are trans. Like, you don’t have to have sex with them. That’s not what I’m saying, but you can’t just like fucking bail on them. Like maybe talk to them, figure it out, be an adult and realize that everyone is different and you really like this person enough to accept that and move on? It’s okay to be angry if they were being dishonest to you. It is okay to break up with them if they were being dishonest to you. But let that be your excuse. Don’t let them having a penis be the reason. That should never be the reason.
i totally understand where you’re coming from. it’s like those stupid ‘ladyboy’ programs, where the guy falls in love with someone whom he thinks is biologically female ( as popposed to someone who is gender female), and then he goes to meet her and it turns out she has a penis.
the main point of those disgusting programs is to make fun of the guy for thinking he’s fallen in love with a woman - of course he still has, but he thought the woman had a vagina, when it just turns out she has a penis.
so really you end up thinking ‘ok, so hes a bit shocked she has a penis, but does that then mean he no longer loves her? all that time dating and chatting over the internet etc was wasted because she has a penis?’
in all honesty i would be shocked if i thought the person was biologically male and then had a vagina, or the other way around - but I WOULD STILL LOVE THE PERSON and would do everything to continue making that relationship work, just the same as any other relationship!
it isn’t all about sex!!
of course i love sex, but i have found that sex WITH THE PERSON (you/I) LOVE is far more amazing than it being based on what sexual organs they have.
and even if you are genuinely afraid of penis’ you can still have a loving relationship with the person….